Jesus Calls You a Friend: Living From His Perspective, Not Confusion

No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I heard from My Father I have made known to you.
— John 15:15

Jesus calls you a friend. And when He takes the time to give you a specific perspective, we should make sure that perspective becomes the foundation of what we believe.

In John 15, Jesus deliberately gives us His view of us. He tells us plainly that He no longer sees us as servants, but as friends.

John 15:14–15 You are My friends if you do whatever I command you. No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I heard from My Father I have made known to you.

This is only possible because of the new birth, and because through Christ’s finished work we have been given the right to become the children of God.

John 1:12 But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name.

Jesus goes on to explain the difference between a servant and a friend. A servant does not know what his master is doing. But since we are no longer servants and are His friends, He says that He is making known to us everything the Father has made known to Him.

That statement deserves time.

Ponder it for a while. Sit still. Take a few deep breaths. Allow the Holy Spirit to illuminate the depth of this truth. Let it saturate your heart to the point that it actually changes how you see yourself.

As I did that, the insight that came was this: if Jesus has made everything known to us that the Father made known to Him, and if Scripture tells us that we have the mind of Christ, then that means that in every situation and in every decision we face, it is possible to have the mind of Christ—and to know what the Father has made known to Christ about that issue or decision.

1 Corinthians 2:16 For who has known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct Him? But we have the mind of Christ.

If you’re confused, it’s not because God is withholding from you. It’s because you’re thinking like a servant and not like a friend.

Confusion reveals where we need to renew our minds—where repentance is needed—and where we need to put on the new man. The new man is a friend of God, someone Jesus shares His knowledge with.

James reinforces this when he writes:

James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.

You’re God’s friend. You have the mind of Christ. It brings Him joy to share His wisdom with you. In fact, Scripture says it brings Him great pleasure to give you His kingdom.

Luke 12:32 Do not fear, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom.

Your responsibility is to believe that. To persuade your heart of His reality until it becomes your reality. When you do, you’ll find that you don’t have to live in confusion.

His word will emerge from your spirit into your heart. And when you are thinking like a friend of God, it will begin to take shape in your thoughts and emotions. His wisdom will become a natural fruit in your thinking—sometimes so natural it almost feels like your own thoughts.

That is His grace at work.

This is how it functions. He is in you like leaven, quietly working His way through your entire being.

Matthew 13:33 The kingdom of heaven is like leaven, which a woman took and hid in three measures of meal till it was all leavened.

Your role is simple but intentional: take Him at His word. Put on the mindset that you are His friend—because He deliberately tells you that you are.

Believe it. Let it guard your thinking. Put off every thought that contradicts it. And make confident decisions from your sonship in Christ.

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Clint Byars

Believer, Husband, Father